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Diana Gardner Robinson, PhD., PCC  
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Spirituality Coaching & Newsletter



Silence is the language of God,
all else is poor translation." Rumi

There is a growing understanding that spirituality is something far more than what we do in a house of worship one day a week. There is a growing international interest in aspects of religion other than one's own. Research has shown that executives who use intuition as one of many decision-making tools are more successful than those who do not. Aspects of shamanism and Native American beliefs are taught at some business conferences, poets address salesmen and executives, all without needing to draw lines between differing religious beliefs.

Where spirituality is concerned, while it is always an aspect of myself, I add it to my coaching only at the specific request of the client. This may involve discussion about philosophies, issues around the integration of spirituality into business, career and life in general, or perhaps using guided meditation or other techniques, as the client chooses, during our coaching sessions.

As a guide to my thinking in this area, in case you are a prospective client, I believe strongly in a Higher Power, whatever one may choose to call It. My own belief is that this Power is a source of strength and guidance in proportion to how strongly we choose to connect and align with It. I also believe that there is more than one route to the peak of every mountain, and therefore I NEVER advocate for any particular approach to spirituality.

As a part of my work in this area, I write the free, monthly e-zine "Grounded in the Earth, Reaching for the Sky."  "Grounded/Reaching" is a spirituality-oriented journal-journey for those who are yearning for that "something more" that only a focus on our spiritual dimension can give. Untethered to any one religion or dogma, inspired by all, "Grounded/Reaching" aims to inspire without preaching and to guide without directing. Think of it as a trail of inspirational bread crumbs providing guidance and nourishment for your spiritual self.

To give you a better idea of "Grounded in the Earth, Reaching for the Sky," a sample issue follows:

"It's wonderful working with someone who really understands my intuitiveness and deep spirituality and can accommodate that." (Client)

GROUNDED IN THE EARTH, REACHING FOR THE SKY!

(Journeying on a spiritual path.)


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December 2004


The hijacking of the tsunami

The bodies are not yet counted. The homeless are not yet sheltered. The denuded are not yet clothed. The children have not been fed. And yet already, the hijacking of the tsunami has begun. It's out there, on the internet. It's reaching for your mind, for your belief.

There's the fundamentalist Christian proclaiming that Christians were miraculously saved while people of other religions were not. There are groups proclaiming that the tsunami was an example of God's wrath at gays. There are Hindu adherents proclaiming that it is punishment for the arrest of one of their number. There are those that claim that a loving god would not have permitted such horror and that therefore this proves either that God is not a loving God or that there is no God. Each group is trying to "spin" this horrible tragedy to support their beliefs.

My belief is that such exploitation is in itself blasphemy.

Yet, how can we juxtapose the concept of a loving Higher Power and the catastrophic tsunami, with its incredible toll of human suffering? How can we encompass the two in one comprehensive view of the universe?

If someone wants to get into the issue of specific religions, I notice that there are few other places in the world where such a disaster could have affected such a huge variety of religions. Looking at the twelve or more countries directly affected by the tsunami, some are predominantly Muslim, others Hindu, others Buddhist, and yet others Christian. Most - though not all - have a tradition of acceptance of faiths other than that of the majority.

Of the survivors, western media undoubtedly focus on those of their own country who survived. Thus, in the U.S. we read of those Americans who survived, and, unlike the British media, pay little attention British survivors, including the British ten-year-old whose awareness of tsunami warning signs saved hundreds on one particular beach. Australia focuses mainly on the Thailand aspects of the tragedy, because that is where the largest number of Australian victims are probably to be found. Thus the focus on some of the amazing survival stories tends to be on those who are "like us" and hence of "our" religion - whatever that may be. So it is understandable that we get a skewed perspective. What American or British newspaper is going to expend valuable space on the story - unless it is outstandingly beyond belief - of someone from another country when there are so, so many of them? It is sad, but it is true, that most news media present information as though they think that the lives of people from their country are more valuable, or at least more newsworthy, than are those of people from other countries.

None of this means that any one religious group was "targeted" for either victim-hood or survival. It simply means that we see what we are shown, or what we want to seek out. Remember that statistics, like your computer monitor, may not always reflect what is. For example, a comparatively small number of deaths in a community or country with a small population may yet represent a huge proportion of the population, so that community may be more affected than another community where the actual numbers are much larger but, because they are based on a larger population, actually represent a smaller proportion.

Either way, the deaths, the suffering, and the long-term impact are inconceivable to most of us. Unfortunately, human thinking does not take easily to the inconceivable or the unthinkable. We seem to have to struggle to give reasons for events, particularly catastrophic events. We have difficulty accepting the unknowable or the inexplicable, and so some of us invent answers and reasons that serve our purposes and help us to maintain our existing world view. That way, the world feels a little safer than if we allow ourselves to accept the unknowable.

As to the question of why God "allowed" or "caused" this tragedy... here's my perception. (And stay with me here, because it will appear that I'm off on one of my notorious tangents - but in fact, as always, you'll see where I'm going if you stick with me.)

A day or so after the tsunami, there was an item in a "Dear Abby" column in my local paper. The letter was from a woman who cared deeply for her ten year old daughter. As a result there was a long list of things that she would not let her daughter do, and it concluded with the fact that when her daughter is at another child's home, even though she knows that the parents are there, she calls the child every hour - yes, every hour - to be sure that she is all right. It was pointed out to her that she is probably stifling her daughter's independence and that she needs to back off.

I agreed with the columnist. As a parent, I believed strongly that children need to learn to exercise their decision-making abilities just as much as their walking, thinking, and feeling abilities. Sometimes it is hard for a parent to hold back, to let a child, or an adult offspring, make decisions that appear to be headed for disaster. Yet, if we do not, we are not only preventing the individual from learning and growing as a result of consequences, but we are insulting their ability to make decisions. If we raised them right, then, depending on their age, they become capable of making more and more complex choices on their own. If we assume they cannot, we not only display lack of respect to them, but to our own parenting abilities. My own belief is that our Higher Power has enough respect for us to not be constantly interfering in the affairs of the world that was set in motion so very long ago.

I think - and I am no theologian - that our world, our physical universe, was set in place long, long ago, by whatever mechanism led to it. While I do believe that our Higher Power is aware of/connected to events, I don't believe that He/She plays constant interference, causing this thing to happen or that thing, in ways that are in contradiction to those physical laws that were set up at inception. Not that She/He can't do this. When that happens, we call it a miracle, because it is counter to known physical laws. However, perhaps there are special reasons for that kind of interference, and I do believe that the reasons for it are not usually comprehensible to human thought - at least for most of us.

No, the Higher Power that I envisage and believe in did not "cause" the tsunami in the sense of pushing a couple of buttons to make it happen. No, the High Power that I envisage and believe in did not seek out members of any specific religion to die, or to be saved. Nature just is, and that was established long, long ago. We cannot know the answers to all the "why" questions raised by this horrible event.

What we can hope is that some good will come of it in the long run. If the horror of the event causes Christian and Muslim to work alongside each other, each laboring to save lives, if it brings Hindu and Buddhist and Atheist together in the same cause, perhaps in the long run they will remember each other as human beings working for good. Perhaps if rebel and government supporter together pull a survivor out of a collapsed building, or carry food and water to a starving child, perhaps they will see that working together they can do more to achieve the good of their community than working against each other. If the tsunami can collapse a few political or religious barriers as effectively as it collapsed buildings, perhaps in the long run some good can come out of this horror.

Asking why, pointing the finger, crowing with pride, muttering "That'll teach them," none of these things will help the survivors, nor will it help bury the dead. Working together to do what is needed - that, I believe, is God's will.

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The following information is taken from a site at http://www.swankyconservative.com/quake/
This is a dynamic site with the information being constantly updated, so by the time you read this, the numbers will have changed. As I write it, the numbers are:

Sri Lanka - 141,008 confirmed dead, 4,000 still missng, 1.5 million displaced.
India - 14,448 confirmed, 14,488 estimated dead 5511 missing.
Indonesia 80,228 confirmed, 400,000 estimated dead, 100,000 injured.
Thailand - 4,800 confirmed, 11,000 estimated dead, 6475 missing.
Somalia - 200 confirmed dead, 50,000 displaced.
Burma - 86 confirmed 45 missing, 788 displaced.
Maldives - 76 confirmed dead, 32 missing.
Malaysia - 66 dead, 218 estimated
These are not the only countries directly affected, but they are the ones most powerfully affected.


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SPECIAL TIMES THIS MONTH
Dates and descriptions obtained from www.interfaithcalendar.org/

Do not be confused by the fact that some celebrations occur on
different days according to different religions. For example, celebrations for those of the Orthodox Christian faith, some of whom adhere to the Julian calendar and some to the Gregorian calendar, often differ from those of most western Christian faiths. For more information about the history behind this confusion, see www.goarch.org/en/ourfaith/articles/article7070.asp.

Celebrations marked with one asterisk actually begin at sundown the previous day. Those marked with two asterisks may vary by date
according to location. Also, because the Islamic calendar is moon-based, some dates may be off by one day, depending upon location.

January 2005

1
Mary, Mother of God - Catholic Christian

Feast of St Basil - Orthodox Christian

Gantan-sai - Ganjitsu - Shinto New Year festival observed with
prayers for inner renewal, prosperity and health.

5
Twelfth Night - Christian observance of the close of Christmastide.

Guru Gobindh Singh birthday - Sikh honoring of the birth of the founder of the Khalsa who lived from 1469 -1539 c.e.

6
Epiphany * - Christian - The homage of the magi to the infant Jesus is honored by some. For others the Baptism of Jesus is the remembered event. A season of the Christian year from the close of Christmas to the beginning of Lent.

Feast of the Theophany - Orthodox Christian Feast to recall the revelation of the Holy Trinity in the baptism of the Lord.

7
Nativity of Christ - Orthodox Christian

9
Baptism of the Lord Jesus - Christian commemoration of the beginning of the public ministry of Jesus.

13
Maghi - Sikh commemoration of a battle in which forty Sikhs died for Guru Gobindh Singh Ji.

16
World Religion Day - Baha'i sponsored day dedicated to the unity and oneness of all world religions.

Blessing of the the Animals - Christian observance of showing respect for the domestic animals that mean much to people. Observed on various dates - especially related to St. Francis.

17
Feast of Mithra - Zoroastrian festival with focus on Mithra as the angel of light. From ancient times in Iran it has been a time of gratitude for life and light.

18-25
Week of Prayer for Christian Unity - Christian

19
Waqf al Arafa - Islamic observance day during Hajj when pilgrims pray for forgiveness and mercy.
19-22
Hajj - Islamic pilgrimage rites at Mecca on 7-12th days of month of Dhu al-Hajja. Concludes with Eid ul Adha when those not traveling to Mecca take part.

21-24
Id al Adha - Islamic day to remember Abraham and the almost sacrifice of Isaac.. Meat is given to the poor.

25
New Years (3 days) ** - Buddhist

Tu B'shvat * - Jewish celebration of the coming of spring by preparation of foods native to Israel. It is also known as "New Year for Trees" - a method for determining the age of trees for tithing purposes.

Conversion of St Paul -Christian observance of the experience of the Paul when he was confronted by a vision of Jesus while on his way to persecute Christians and became a leading presenter of Jesus.

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